Does the “who is the dad?” question keep you up at night?

Published on 16 Aug

At some point in our lives we all have problems sleeping when, in the night, our brain goes into overdrive and plays over and over worrisome scenarios.

Sleep is when your body restores your muscles, immune system and your brain for the following day. Disturbed sleep makes you irritable and tired the next day – not ideal if you face problems to do with, for example, health, money and of course families. For some, this can include worries about “who is the father of a child?” – mum may be worrying which man is the father, a man may be worrying if he is in fact the father and other family members such as grandparents may have their concerns too.

While there is no substitute for a DNA test to resolve an issue of paternity, at, we understand the pressures and would like to offer the following advice to help you keep a clear head when sorting out a paternity issue.

  1. Try to think it through during the day and come to a conclusion. Everything seems worse and out of perspective at 4am! Make some notes and try to think of helpful steps to help resolve the issues. It will also help you feel in control of the situation.
  2. Talk it over with a friend, family member or anyone you trust. Of course there are ups and downs in life, but paternity issues are generally pretty high on the scale!
  3. Try to introduce routine into your day – some exercise (but not before bedtime!) or a bedtime routine to help relax your body will help. Suggestions are; light reading before bedtime (not horror stories!), use some lavender on your pillow, stick to a defined bedtime that gives you enough sleep (7-9 hours), listen to soothing music, try one of those fabulous colouring books, even do some breathing exercises or meditation. And of course try not to be online for at least an hour before bed.

Find a routine that works for you and stick to it. The key is to relax for an hour before bedtime. Paternity concerns are a matter of fact, resolved by a DNA test and if we can help with that, please get in touch with us at 0203 603 1189 or

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